Did you grow up hearing this statement or one like it? From your parents, friends, or teachers? From anyone? I did. I didn't even realize it for many years, but statements like that actually created beliefs that stuck in my mind, beliefs that came from someone else, not from me. Those beliefs actually limit our ability to draw wealth into our lives.
People seem to have developed the belief that life is somehow more noble or honorable if it's a struggle. Think about it. There is no one to blame. It's a mindset most probably aren't even aware they have, but you hear it in the way they talk and the things they say. Many times I've heard someone say, "So and so worked hard their whole life." And I hear respect and admiration in that person's voice. They might not realize it's there but I can hear it. So can you if you listen. On the other hand, someone they perceive to have an "easy" life, about that person people will say, "Oh, they were born with a silver spoon in their mouth." And you hear contempt in their voice. Again, there's no one to blame. They probably aren't even aware of the mindset they have, but you hear it in what they say. Now, how does mindset influence us? It influences us a lot.
I've heard people talking this way for as long as I can remember. I've heard, "So and so worked hard their whole life," and even as a child I heard the admiration and respect there. I've heard, "They were born with a silver spoon in their mouth," and I heard the contempt there, even before I had a conscious understanding of those words, on a deeper level I knew what it meant. So if we think about this, how does it make us feel? The people who say those things have the belief, consciously or not, that it's better, honorable, to struggle and to work hard. Those same people believe that it's contemptible to have what they perceive to be an easy life, to not have to work so hard. What does it mean when they say someone was born with a silver spoon in their mouth? It means they've always had lots of money, and the people who haven't always had money look on that with contempt.
When we hear these things growing up, our young, unguarded, unaware minds simply take these outsides beliefs as our own. When people talk about someone with respect, saying they worked hard their whole life, we may not consciously think it, but it's usually the respect we desire. That's something we want. When we hear the contempt of someone born into wealth, that's something we don't want. Here's what it comes down to: We make an unconscious decision that we should struggle through life and that gets us respect. We don't consciously think it, but unconsciously we reach the conclusion that if we work hard and struggle for money we will have respect. At the same time, we make the unconscious decision to push wealth away, because we don't want someone to speak about us with contempt, and we've accepted the unconscious belief that having a lot of money will make other people look on us with contempt.
There is no one to blame, not the people who gave us this belief, not ourselves. But we need to question our beliefs, to think, to ask ourselves, do I really believe this? Personally I've discovered that I got most of my beliefs from other people. Since I've became more aware, I've looked at my beliefs and found that most of them came from someone else. Now I look more deeply. I ask myself, why do I believe this? Where did it come from? When did it start? Now, I question just about everything.
"Someone else may have been responsible for making us who we are. We are responsible for changing."